THE SAD SIDE OF LABOR & DELIVERY

At work a few days ago, I took care of the most wonderful couple. They were a young, married, beautiful African-American couple in their 30's pregnant with their first baby. They had been trying for almost 2 years. There was only one catch... she was only 5 months pregnant and their unborn child was diagnosed with problems that were incompatible with life. They were making the hardest decision they could... to terminate the pregnancy.

For those that don't know, when a couple decides to do this, the mother still has to go through with the whole labor and delivery process. They experience the same pain and have to push just the same as if it was a healthy 9-month pregnancy. This was a very hard day for me and the saddest delivery you could imagine. Instead of seeing a delivery in which a healthy screaming baby is born, I had to witness nothing but tears of sadness at the delivery of a lifeless child. They cried. I cried. We all cried at the sight.

It got me to thinking. It's just so unfair that there are all these teen mothers having their 2nd and 3rd babies in the world, and this wonderful couple is still seeking their first child. It also made me realize how many take pregnancies for granted. So I ask all of you out there that are pregnant to be thankful for the blessing you have been given. Children are a gift from God, so cherish it.

SINCE WHEN DOES MARRIAGE = BABY????

On November 10, 2007, I had one of the most important days of my life... I married the love of my life, Reggie. It was a wonderful event, from start to finish. All my closest friends and family were there to witness it and wish us well. Not to mention, it was a non-stop party until about 6am!!!!

You would be amazed at how many people, THE DAY OF MY WEDDING, congratulated me and in the same breath asked me that annoying question, "So, when are you having kids?" Are you effin kiddin' me?! You may think I'm exaggerating, but trust me I'm not. I don't know. Maybe it's because I'm 31 and everyone has been waiting for me to start a family for so long, and once I got that marriage license they figured "all systems go." I don't think so, people.

Needless to say, 11 months later, this question has gotten more frequent and more annoying. From family to friends to co-workers, they all are wondering when I'm gonna get knocked up. Believe me, if they would carry the baby, take care of it, and provide for it, I would drop one right now!!! Ever heard of planning???

The fact that I work on Labor & Delivery makes it worse for sure. Believe me when I tell you these doctors and nurses I work with are on a constant pregnancy patrol. They wanna be the first to crack the case of a woman who hasn't yet revealed her pregnancy to the public. It's ridiculous. I say, "I'm Tired," they raise their eyebrows. Um, ever heard of a newlywed woman having late nights with her husband??? I tell them my stomach is bothering me, they smile at me. What? I couldn't have just had some bad Chinese? And I better not gain a pound or forget about it!

Look, whatever happened to enjoying your marriage for a while? You only get one time to enjoy the newlywed period, so I'm not going to waste it. I didn't get married so that I could immediately start having children and just because I'm in my 30's doesn't mean I'm going to rush into it just bc my so-called clock is "ticking." I got married for one reason only... I wanted to make the ultimate commitment to my best friend. Yes, children are in the picture, but just not now. So, PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE. Don't ask me again about children. I'm a happily married woman, so it won't be some scandalous secret when I become pregnant. I'll let you know, OK?

My First Blog

Hello my fellow bloggers! This is my very first blog entry. I just wanted to welcome you to my spot. For the longest time, I've needed a means to vent about things that annoy the hell out of me or just ponder the many questions and mysteries of this world we live in. Well, here it is. Stay tuned ...